Our new series, Knowing Our Neighbors, is an attempt to acknowledge and affirm the humanity that’s right around the corner. By talking frankly about our choices, dreams, and realities, we hope to uplift our community through shared experiences and the relief that, in the end, we really are doing it right.
“Dash was born when I was 48. Andrew was 48 too. We were not planning on having children. At some point, it became apparent that we wanted children.
“We did not feel that our lives were empty, or that anything was missing. It doesn’t seem to make sense that if you really want a child, you don’t also feel that something is missing. I think we came to the conclusion that having a child (we’ve been together a long time) would make our adventure together that much deeper.
“There’s nothing wrong with not having kids. I know a lot of people who don’t have kids. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s a very good way to live.
“But when you get older, you get to a point where you know you want something more. Maybe for some people that’s to climb a mountain. Or learn something. Maybe it’s going somewhere. For us, it was having a child. It has something to do with our relationship to the world. Having a child was our expression of that need to go deeper.
“What else is there? What else are we here for? It’s animal nature to be curious! What else is there for us to do but take risks? That’s what I mean when I say you want something deeper. Without that burst of creativity and curiosity, you’re living in still water. It’s stagnant – a stagnant life is unfortunate.”